Be The Change // Episode 3: The Audacity of Fatherhood

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Be The Change // Episode 3: The Audacity of Fatherhood

Today I’d like to put Fatherhood and fatherlessness into context. From My perspective, the true measure of a father is ultimately determined by the level of respect he earns from his son(s) and/or his daughter(s).

Three types of fathers:

  • Triumphant or Exceptional fathers
  • Daring or Good father who at least tries
  • Timid – the weak one with the audacity to abandon his child

It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.

Theodore Rooseveltte

Fatherlessness impacts families and the general family -structure hard – the impact is immeasurable – points from

  • “Children in father-absent homes are almost four times more likely to be poor.  In 2011, 12 percent of children in married-couple families were living in poverty, compared to 44 percent of children in mother-only families”  Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Children Living Arrangement and Characteristics: March 2011, Table C8. Washington DC: 2011
  • “Children living in female headed families with no spouse present had a poverty rate of 47.6 percent, over 4 times the rate in married-couple families” Source U.S. Department of Health and Human Services; ASEP Issue Brief: Information on Poverty and Income statistics. September 12, 2012
  • “Fatherless children are at a dramatically greater risk of drug and alcohol abuse” Source:
  • There is significantly more drug use among children who do not live with their mother and father.”
  • Children of single-parent homes are more than twice as likely to commit suicide.”
  • “Children born to single mothers show higher levels of aggressive behavior than children born to married mothers.”